THE PURPOSE OF LOVE, HEALING OUR MEN, FORGIVENESS, ATTACHMENT AND MORE...

WHAT I LEARNED THIS WEEK...

-THE PURPOSE OF RELATIONSHIP
I finally understand that a relationship is not about my needs and what I can get from another, but what I have to GIVE. What do I have to contribute to another? How can I be in service to another’s development? This includes our children, friendships or romantic relationships.

-I NEED MEN
Thought I didn’t need men, but alas I do. I love men and I need them. 
Men are the best!

-HEAL THE MEN
(Again) This moment in history is NOT about healing the feminine. IT IS ABOUT HEALING THE MASCULINE. A man who was raised by a supportive family/society would never underpay, disrespect or abuse a woman.

-FORGIVE ALL
Forgive. Absolutely. Everyone. Especially yourself. Grudges are 100% useless. Shame is 1000% useless. You are perfect. You are exactly where you're supposed to be. So is everyone else.

-IT SEEMS PEOPLE ARE DEEPLY ATTACHED TO MANIFESTING
Apparently I triggered some of my friends when I wrote that manifesting is black magic. If this is you, please consider the following guidelines:

1) Stick to Ultimate Goals, birthrights and desired feelings. Love, Joy, Health, Abundance, Fulfillment, etc. Don’t limit yourself with the details of how… leave those to God!

2) Pray for others, THEN pray for yourself, IN THAT ORDER! Giving is receiving, the more you give to others, the more comes back. Praying for yourself only creates a loop.

3) There is a Universal Principle which states that when you ask for something, it’s opposite will show up first. This is for two reasons: so you might appreciate what you asked for more deeply by its contrast; and so that you are given the choice to CHOOSE that which you asked for.

-MY FLOW IS YOUR FLOW
Flow is flow, it’s mine and it’s yours. If I cancel plans, or things don't pan out how you'd hoped, know that something WAY better awaits. Consider skipping disappointment and going straight to finding what magical thing The Universe has in store for you.

-HAPPINESS COMES FROM CHALLENGE
It has been scientifically proven that challenge is directly correlated to happiness levels. The happiest people in the world challenge, push themselves, and adventure into the unknown frequently.

-HAPPINESS FROM WITHIN
Nature is random and does not cater to your emotional needs, therefor it would be wise not to depend on outside forces for your happiness. It is far easier and efficient to cultivate unwavering joy from the inside. Strengthen this practice by being kind and peaceful in all situations, especially the difficult ones.

-BE THANKFUL FOR EVERYTHING
Each perceived challenge is an opportunity to bring you greater understanding of yourself. Don't waste time complaining, go straight to thanks! The hack of hacks: walk around thinking and saying "thank you!" all day every day.

-I HAVE NO CHOICE BUT TO SHARE WITH YOU
When I don't write and share vulnerable and truthful entries about my experience, my growth is stunted. When we share, we move forward. If one person is guided by something I write, then we win. No one will be left behind, I'm not going anywhere without you!

In Service, 
Hayley Starr